The Love Guru

Hey. I'm Ameilla (Amei) Usachan.
Toram is my first MMO that I've ever played and even though I still consider myself a newbie, I will say I sure have come a long ways since I started in October 2015.

I've found out the hard way that the people behide the toons aren't always who they seem to be. I've come to understand that sometimes these toons have personalities that are so opposite from the players behind them because quite simply, even I have wanted to be someone else for a day.

When I first started Toram I was so hungry for friendships, so much in fact that I met this "boy" who would say all the right things and made me fall a little "head over heels" for his company. Turns out he was a perv and I played right into his schemes in fear that he would abandon me. (Yikes!)

As time went on I met my guild mates, several business partners, friends, and alliances. But something about that "boy" made me crave for a Toram Romance.

I was searching for love, as my guild mates can attest to. I ended up "marrying" a GM from another guild as an agreement to form an alliance. Granted, he was a sweet guy but I learned quick that 1.) arranged marriages are uncool, 2.) Toram Love is for in-game Toram. I really didn't appreciate my phone blowing up with all the chats he was sending me out-of-game.

I finally met an AMAZING player who I became good friends with out-of-game. He reigned from Black Flame, whom at the time I knew nothing about. I didn't even know who Nut2Fast was back then >.< (n00b) We had a great relationship/friendship until recently when he disappeared without warning and hasn't been active for 3wks or so now.

In my despair I was comforted by one of my BESTFRIENDS in Toram, whom also had similar issues as me: the obsession for a Toram Mate. One thing led to another and BOOM. Another relationship was started with my bestfriend. Now I know what you're thinking...ITS JUST A GAME. Or even FRIENDS SHOULD NEVER GO DOWN THAT ROAD. But honestly, I'm not the only one.

Unfortunately, my bestie is a High-Profile Player. I kind of expected him to be busy all the time and that even when we were together there would be players spamming shout or his pm. I knew this but believed that maybe our prior friendship would make an impact on our budding relationship.

I was wrong.

I've had the opportunity to befriend many other players who have experienced the same emotions and circumstances that I have had & I wonder why it is that we crave for love and acceptance through a virtual world?

I wonder if there are others out there who want to share their stories? Or maybe some who are sharing the same thoughts as myself? Perhaps you've found your Toram Romance and wonder if someone cares...

Even though it's just a game, we all search for social acceptance regardless of the platform. For those of you who don't care, please move on freely with your lives. For everyone else, you can count on me, IM ALL EARS...or technically, ALL EYES. {0.0}

xoxo Amei

 

Oh boy dat drama doe lol. We all got bits and pieces of our own xD Solution: trust no one except for food Always go for the potato and the fried stuffs. Love me some starchy goodness *~*

Also No I don't want to see moar because drama is annoying. it's like that itch on your back that you can't reach/scratch. Let's all be happy and eat lots of food. People experience the phase of wanting some love online and little puppy love between players if you get to know them reallll well, but after a while, it dies and time moves on. Some people get over this so called "Love" real quick and others, don't. Social interaction is very important, but in all honesty if it's gonnna hurt you, don't bother.

 

Haha I feel you, this is also my first MMO and the reason why we crave for social acceptance is because we're only human(and squids), we're not ment to live on ourselves, we have endless potentials and everyone plays a role within each other's lives. I've learned a lot of things from toram that could be used outside the game and I'm greatful to all the people that I've met. I love toram cause it's built bridges to new gaps and relationships I've never been before. Tbh i was a depressed lil squid before toram but look at where I am now I love the game and it's community(even if it sucks sometimes) and tbh i feel like the Internet is where you can be anything you want without worrying about being judged.

 

A short story.
I have a very possessive GM.
End.

*I'll leave everything to your imagination.*

 

Although I'm a Hardcore Halo Fan. I once played Iruna and had a broken online relationship with a girl whom I knew her back then, and didnt went well of course lol. Ever since before Toram came out (not knowing there's alpha O_O) I immersed myself in Halo 4 and L4D2 and pretty much when my Gold Live subscription ended last year January. That is when I got introduced Toram by my classmate (around March last year). So I decided to give it a try. True that most of the terrain and mobs (like Colon and Kijimus) are very nostalgic from Iruna making me remember of her. But of course, its not worth it to hold broken and depress filled feelings from the past. Been playing Toram for a year now and I met lots of cool peeps around here and in game, and Toram is the game which I can "move on" XD. (Plus, I do admire all the senpais here too ahaha).
Doing what I love doing both in real life and in-game and meeting people from the forums and getting to know them makes me really happy! ^w^

 

A very honest pov. Thanks for sharing! ^_^

 

I totally agree Squid! I enjoy great company though I am not obsessed with attention in-game. I think meeting great players makes the game more worth-while, knowing there are friends to greet with a smile when you log on. As we all know there are only so many quests to do and only so many mobs worth farming. Lol

 

Honestly I was really hurt after the incident with the first "boy" i befriended. I felt used and abused. Before him, all I knew was to do quests and ask questions to randoms when I had them. I was shy to talk to players because I always learned to not talk to strangers LOL (seriously!) it wasn't until after him that I began to understand the virtual environment and began to socialize more. I am truly happy as well when I meet new friends thx to Toram. <333

 

Did you just say you was human >.>?

 

Nope, get your eyes checked

 

My whole life has been a lie~

 

Good positive story , As well this is my first MMO never was into phone games I was either playing some flappy bird xD just got bored and typed rpg on my itune store one day and boom , Well as in game relationship they cool even got one of my own and I admire her a lot and her hard work, also for not letting it get in between business and never forgeting the bigger picture in our goal, I've made countless friends and have a lot of people I trust a lot so it's not impossible, that's what led to th guild I have today , As that player you speak off I wish he returns and gets well , not releasing too much personal onfo about him , but he indeed is one man that got my respect and 100% trust. Thank you so much for posting about that man who is a respected Black fame member really admirable dude , Give him 1m and he come back to u with 2m that's the kinda person he was. Let's hope to see him again !

 

Avoid drama is the best drama.

But, in the spirit of the thread, I'll say that it's a natural phenomena. Everyone craves interaction of some sort, whether you're an introvert or extrovert. The sheer number of people one can interact with is a sort of birthday party for extroverts and the anonymity and control of an online presence is a sort of haven for introverts. In most cases, if you find yourself looking for love it's generally because it's something that's missing from your regular day to day life(i.e. someone with a partner irl isn't going to be hung up on anyone in particular in game). As far as romance goes, a relationship that develops in game is, in essence, like any other online relationship. People serve up and present whatever image of themselves they want online and this is generally something desirable(e.g. sweet and caring, smart and calm, etc) so it's easy to fall in love with a persona of little to no flaws. Couple this with our(humans) need to fit in within a social construct(friend/boyfriend/girlfriend,etc) and you've got a recipe for attraction. However, if you've read anything about online relationships(at least the romantic ones) you'll know that most of the time they fail.

Not that I'd stop anyone, though. By any means, have your fun. It's a sort of adventure I think everyone in the newer generations should live at least once, if only to understand the difficulties behind them.

 

Thanks Nut! I really appreciate the encouragement. Funny how I discovered Toram in the same manner lol, got tired of playing panda pop xP

I hope he comes back too. I've been waiting for his goofy texts to come rolling in. >.<

 

This is my first MMO as well. I started two months ago. I'm glad you took the time to share your story. I myself have not went through what all you have, but I know this will help others on the game to know that they're not alone. That someone cares and is ready/willing to listen. I have lost some friends on here I've made in the beginning. In fact, we were such good friends for a small fraction of time on the game that I still find myself missing them. Believe it or not, after I lose someone I just happened to "click" with I feel lost for a day or two.
I'm almost CERTAIN that every player on this game and maybe even other games has lost at least one person that they can't help but miss and think about from time to time. I dare even say, when one loses such a connection with someone they too find themselves wandering around at times not knowing what the fuck is going on, but only knowing they want that connection back. It's such a... (for lack of a better word) blessing to have these people come in and enrich our lives, whether or not it's a good or bad experience there's always something you can take away from to grow with as an individual.

 

lol this a very iffy subject, many people will tell you its cute but no real substance, not really possible, its just a phase and it just ends up breaking up guilds and friendships. I was also one of those who scoffed at it.
but now i I feel it all depends on the person you meet, anything is possible! you can find some who really loves you for who you are.
ive met the most wonderful girl in the world who makes me really happy, if it wasn't for her I'd have quit toram already cos of loosing all my friends I wanted to quit. so real love bonds are possible to be forged, not just pervy ones lol. some people laugh at us or don't take us seriously, but we don't care really, cos a good relationship is built on a solid foundation. imho most relationships fail so quickly cos they were started for the wrong reasons.
anyhow that's just my 5cents lol

 

Ah you must be Senpai *_*

Personally I like the cute "role-play" aspect of it though I admit I was hungover on the first guy {~.~} but I've learned since then. I'm sure that it's possible to experience real love virtually that carries over to real life but I wouldn't suggest anything that serious either--totally agreeing with your aspect 100%

 

I joke all the time about being Goddess of my guild because by coincidence I run an all male guild lol. It seems like every female I meet, I scare them off and that too makes me a little sad (am I a dragon-lady and don't know it?!!) I too met a character once and we had girl talks for hours every time we were on together and one day she decided she didn't want to talk anymore. That hurts more than losing some puppy love.

 

YES!!! I am so glad you mentioned that. Too many players are screaming ITS JUST A GAME GET A LIFE or whatever mean things they can muster up. I think we all felt that way at one time until we were lucky enough to find another player who accepted each of us for who we are (or aren't).

Individual happiness comes first. <3