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Bad Habits' Crematorium

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  1. ayne

    ayne Well-Known Member

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    For anyone who is genuinely interested in searching and destroying bad habits and patterns, and build better ones in some areas of your life, I am here to provide tips and tricks,
    Tips will be added every day for a week from this point.

    Your day to day habits, the way you respond, whether you get angry, how nasty you can get when you are angry, or how you behave when you are polite, your good and bad, all these Habits are from your father, he teaches you. But how you cognize You, the innermost image you carry about You comes from your mother.

    Your behaviours, responding patterns come from your father’s education about the outer world, he contributes a lot to your Outer image and how you relate with the world, the do’s and don’t’s, that’s why if you had an unstable father your relationship with the outer world will be very unstable.

    The way you remember (cognize) you, your Inner image comes from your mother. Having a full, fulfilling and complete relationship with your mother can heal your inner image. The attitude which forms the basis for the way you connect with life with the world, the same attitude forms the basis for you to connect with yourself. This is the meaning of the word Karma in vedic tradition, if you judge you will be judged. The strong words which you utter towards others will be the same strong words you will be uttering towards yourself. The attitude which you bring to relate with others will be the same when you relate with yourself. That is why you should bring Motherliness in all your relationship with other, then you will bring so much of motherliness in your relationship with yourself. You will be able to heal yourself, you will bring tremendous healing energy of Mother in your day to day attitude with everything. Suddenly you will see you will be so cool with yourself. With the amount of pent up frustration, you go on abusing anyone in front of your eyes. You silently say to yourself, "this guy has cheated me, that guy has exploited me, that guy has robbed me, etc". Your inability to be with yourself, to be cool with yourself is The frustration inside your system. It is the reason for your possessiveness, you will just suffocate the people and objects around you. Grabbing and possessing does not heal your frustration.

    Bring motherliness into your life and all the people in your life. Be a Child to your source, your inspiration, your role model in life. And be a Mother to all the people who you inspire and support.

    Be your boss. If you are working for somebody you will only learn to give your time into your job, you will never learn the taste and joy of what it is to give your Energy along with your Time. You will give your energy along with your time only if you are going to be the ultimate beneficiary. (sort of, but not entirely, like lvling characters in toram) If you are the ultimate beneficiary, only then you will put your energy into your time. Giving your time to something but not giving your energy and life will make you experience the most prolonged and painful suicide possible. Be Your Boss. You will learn, you will be inspired to give your energy to your time, then you will know how to give you Life to your time.

    If you are in a mechanism where you put your energy and life into your time, you will be fulfilled in your life, period. Deeep self-doubt is the only reason that makes you work for other's ambitions. Either you spend your life to fulfill your dreams or somebody will hire you to fulfill theirs. When you are fulfilling somebody else's dream, you will naturally become cunning to separate your energy and time. That is why 9am-5pm is only time for you, not life. Do not be in a mechanism where your time separated from your energy and life. There is a saying, time is money, it is not the truth. Time is Life, that is reality.

    In the modern day, working for somebody is the worst crime you will do to yourself. Do not abuse yourself by working for somebody. First few months maybe a struggle, that is why you need a transition period. Give yourself two years to build a start-up and stabilize it. When something is yours you will naturally put your time, energy, and life into it, then slowly you will get the confidence, the self-doubt will melt.... in progress
     
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    Yunan Not Enough Salt Elite Member

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    How to not procrastinate at everything
     
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    Carefully examine this answer, try not to rush through,
    Authenticity is a principle

    It is in-authenticity to yourself that makes postponing things and procrastination as a habit/pattern in you.
    The first symptom of you losing your authenticity is procrastination, Drop it.
    Continuously bring authenticity to you, because the habit of procrastinating cannot take roots into you. It is a roof garden weed not a rooted garden weed where it is difficult to remove.
    Being inauthentic constantly puts you into a state of procrastination, postponing life, it can put you in a mental state of postponing life. Procrastination is nothing less than death. If you are not Living even if you breathe, what is the use?
    Live along with your breathing, Live along with it. Don't postpone, Live along with your breathing.
    If you decide to do something, if you decide to express your life in some way don't postpone if you are postponing, it is temporary death. Temporary doesn't convey the seriousness of the effect of procrastination, procrastination is death as long as the habit exists in you.
     
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    Yunan Not Enough Salt Elite Member

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    Authenticity huh, that makes sense. I'll keep that in mind, thanks
     
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    Yunan Not Enough Salt Elite Member

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    Next one would be...impulsive tendency?
     
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    hhah I was planning to keep adding tips daily but it seems with yunan i would be adding them even more frequently :)
    The best answer for dealing with impulsive tendencies is rather simple, it is your ability to persist. It is your willingness to use the powerfullness of your pure Will to withstand any impulse, whether it be intense anger, lust, hunger, or anything. Although you might feel as if fighting them with bare hands, it is the only weapon you need to cut down those tendencies. The strongest impulse a human can have is lust, your sexual need. If your Will can withstand the gushing streams of thoughts of lust just by its raw crude power and persistence, you'll never be affected by any other tendency, you will simply know how to silence and subdue them.
     
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    Haha, I'm basically a lump of bad habits
     
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    I keep wanting to draw but it been 4 years now and I still here, looking at meme
     
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    We're at the age of instant gratification its hard to be persistent
     
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    I forgot to say that I want to draw "stuffs"
     
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    To add on top,
    All compulsive behavior is powerlessness, All conscious behavior is powerfulness
     
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    Reminder for waffle, I am sorry if this sounds repetitive, but its important so I will repeat it here,

    regardless of the patterns with which we may think we are stuck now, or the difficulties we may face, we always have potential to recreate our lives as we want them to be. When life is not going as we want, the only reason we haven't created what we want it to be yet, is that we haven't Acted towards what we want. Fantasizing and acting are different; Existence responds to action. The only thing you need is the Will to break and rejuvenate your life.

    I will add more to this, I ran out of time
     
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