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Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by Kain, Nov 27, 2016.

  1. Kain

    Kain alt_Human Staff Member MODERATOR

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    Alrighty then... I know this may be an unnecessary thread to post, but I feel the need to post this thread for the entire community to see.

    I don't truly know how to start off this thread, but here goes nothing. I'm aware that some people here have had personal problems regarding to real life issues or online matters, and it can sometimes take its toll by affecting the moods of some. You're probably thinking "What's this guy talking about?" or "Okay... Where's this going?" Well, there's no better way for me to explain this; I try to be compassionate to the community as a moderator to this forums. Yes, I may seem rather strange, robotic, or expressionless at some times, but that really change my heart. I want the best for people, no matter who they are and I'm willing to hear out any problems that any of you may have.

    Now some of you are probably thinking, "Why would I tell my personal life/issues to this guy/nutcase?" I don't expect everyone to trust me, of course not, but I just want to say that as strange, robotic, or expressionless I may seem, I know. I've felt experiences in events both online and in reality that some of you may share with me. I know this may be sounding a bit creepy or that it may seem I'm just posting this thread for attention or whatnot, but that's not it at all.

    My point is; I'm willing to hear out anything that you guys have on your mind. I just want the best for all people, no matter who they are. I may be sounding a bit too compassionate, but that's just me. There's more than enough hate and problems in the world that we suffer from, why add onto it? Speak up, don't let problems cloud your mind. Speak to someone you trust, or to me if you don't have anyone else to talk to. I'll listen.

    Without much to be said, because I don't want to drag this on longer than it needs to be. Keep in mind, even though I'm a moderator, remember that I'm human too and I feel just like you. Everyone who's read up to this point and has beared with me, I hope you have a lovely day!
     
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  2. mamattew

    mamattew Hibernation Elite Member

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    Ok I'll read carefully :D
     
  3. Kyrie[MsKO]♥

    Kyrie[MsKO]♥ Well-Known Member

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    Awww^^
     
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  4. RyeUshio

    RyeUshio The Blue Bull Elite Member

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    Read between the lines to see and find that there's so much love in it. ^_^
     
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  5. Kaiousei

    Kaiousei Well-Known Member

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    "The tin man wanted a heart" I feel the feels ^^
     
  6. LeonLCE

    LeonLCE Well-Known Member

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    Umm... this is the thread of express feeling or somewhat @-@?
    If yes let me be the first person XD
    Since this is a open comments, i will talk of something doesn't need much privacy ^^ If i some sins to confess, i will PM you ^^
    Here we go...some questions...
    ● What will you do if someone that's work with you doesn't pay much attention to you because of you are talkless person and added a new member who talk active + humor, so their attention would immediately goes to the new member and they will just talk to you or something when they need you ?
    ● Many people told me that I'm thinking too much of above problems, some said this is a reality, some said being nice will easily forgot by people and they can easily take advantage of you. Which do you think is more close to what we so call reality?
    ● Do you think you can hear out the problems that you sensitive with and keep calm after reading all that comments? Sorry for saying this because a nice person like you shouldn't get hurt so much.

    You are doing good so far and i support you by all mean. But, don't overdo, sometime it just make things worst.

    Note : Keep up your good work, and you can ignore me if this is sensitive to you ^^
     
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  7. mamattew

    mamattew Hibernation Elite Member

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    Lol :D
     
  8. I robot

    I robot Well-Known Member

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    As a person who is sharing several of the above traits, I understand exactly what you are saying. Good for everyone that you are a mod
     
  9. RyeUshio

    RyeUshio The Blue Bull Elite Member

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    You are very much aware of the situation. If you long for that attention then communication is the key, but since you are not like the new guy, then start something within the range of your comfort zone. ^_^
     
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    KuroBe01 Well-Known Member

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    b(•_•) u r the best bud,,
    n this post is not unnecessary, but this post is very necessary for us toramers,, >_<
     
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    KuroBe01 Well-Known Member

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    (•_•)/ hello,,
    About that, I think u will get more attention if u want to get out from ur comfort zone (being talkless person). All people can changed, u can changed, u already did ur best as a people who keep chat lively by adding the lively person, u already did ur best behind the screen, now its time for u to change,, >_<
     
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  12. Kain

    Kain alt_Human Staff Member MODERATOR

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    For the first question, I'll try my best to answer it since it was rather unclear to me. (I apologize, I only got two and a half hours of sleep). I don't mind not receiving attention, for it's something I've adapted to in my life. For the person that receives the attention, I'd say good for them and will be available to be spoken to at anytime.

    For the second, that's a rather easy one for me. Sadly, the truth is that people tend to dwell upon the negative events and thoughts, rather than the good. Take the media/news for example. The only thing I've ever seen thus far are lies and and reports about violence and all that other stuff. You don't often see a positive report now. This is just an example of thar very scenario. The only thing I could say is that we need to cherish the good, even if it's the most smallest of things. It may just make things better for ourselves.

    Third is another easy one for me. I'll admit that I've experienced rather... harsh events in my life and I grew up the low-life. I had nothing growing up. I'm gonna bring up just a small personal event of my childhood. Growing up, I missed out with my father for a small majority of my early years as a child, because he spent years in prison. Him and my mother were divorced and I was left staying with my grandparents, who I lived with to this day. (Father got out of prison when I was 12 or 13 and he is doing great to this day). Anyways, back on topic, I'm no stranger to sensitivity, plus it doesn't even exist with me anymore, for the mental and emotional scars left on me tell my stories. I'm at the point where I can hear out anything.

    I apologize if I didn't answer rather well. I'm tired as mentioned.
     
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    woah man you have seen some really harsh times over there! hope things are better for you nowadays
     
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    You're such a sweetheart, proud of you man!
     
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  15. Kain

    Kain alt_Human Staff Member MODERATOR

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    Thank you all. This thread caught on more than I anticipated; so I'll therefore pin it for now.

    Anyways, to all you people in the community, I know I may be some dingus behind the screen of a device, but truly, I will hear anyone out on anything. Best not to let problems cloud our minds and visions.
     
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    Isra Edgy Boi Elite Member

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    Serious Question, not to be taken the wrong way: What'd we do to deserve such a caring moderator? Not only do I equate you as a friend but someone to respect, and that says a lot coming from a self-centered prick such as myself. For you to come out this honestly is astoundingly brave in this world, where self-centeredness and selfish wanton needs overshadow compassion for your fellow human. I honor you as not only a moderator, but as a person and friend.
     
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    Kain alt_Human Staff Member MODERATOR

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    Because it's how I work. I'm not selfish and I care for all people. I've suffered enough to know I that I want the best for others so they may possibly avoid enduring what I have been through. Few may not see eye to eye with me, but even I'm willing for them.

    It's just how I am, not only as a moderator, but as a person.
     
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    NUT2Fast 01-13-2017 @Ameilla Elite Member

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    Lol y'all soft .yall too focus on negatives to see the positives
     
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  19. Toramwasmyidea

    Toramwasmyidea im probably high right now Elite Member

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    tldr this is psychotherapy?
     
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  20. XenonMk2

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    Dam, must've been rough, I'm glad that ur father is doing well and yeah, I think its really nice that ur going around helping people, but tbh I probably won't ask here for help, not Cuz I don't trust you, i just think I'm better off keeping to myself. I can share one story tho, that relates to yours. So, to start off the story, I have autism, and as a child, we didn't quite know how bad it was. That being said I was tossed aside by my family, and rejected by people, even friends. I was always told I was nothing because of my problems, and imagine being rejected and abused by strangers, just because you were on the same football team as their kid, yeah, that was me, they wanted me off the team that badly, and that was just at football, at school I'd be jumped in the hallways, because they thought autistic people don't feel pain or emotion, and they wanted to "have fun" at school I'd always been treated like a moron, even though i was in the top of the class. I ended up getting expelled from 5 schools, before my current one. At home my father would abuse me for fun, and my mother wouldn't give a shit. When I was 6 my mom and dad got divorced, and my father later went to jail for abuse, but was bailed out. So until I was 13 I thought pain, and violence was a good thing, cuz that's how I was raised, abusively, so I had no friends due to my violent tendencies, and I was labeled a bully, when I didn't know I was doing wrong, then in my first year of highschool, I met a friend who really changed my life, she always helped me, and helped me realize my own problems. Nowadays I still hate my family, but I hold my friends close, they gave me a reason to keep going, to help others, to become a better person. Well, I've rambled on for long enough. Sorry bout that, and thanks for listening.
     
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